Quite often when we are shrouded in the clouds of darkness we feel that there is no ray of hope/light. Much to the contrary, light is always surrounding even the darkness and is only finding one small opening to pierce through the dense darkness. There cannot be darkness without light and hence light is always around us. Our ray of hope could be a person, situation, higher power, nature, love or a simple word of encouragement we receive. The key here is having that ‘opening’ or creating one to receive and make space for the light to enter. This is a choice we ought to make as humans.
By help here I am referring to any form of treatment for your mental, emotional and relational health. This could be called psychotherapy, counseling, couples therapy, family therapy, mental health counseling etc. (I do agree that lot of these titles do a good job of scaring people awayJ )
Do you think you are crazy to seek a doctor’s advice when you have been suffering from chronic back pain? I hope not. Of course, we all have among us our friends and family who love to self-medicate & or live in pain. Perhaps there are temporary cures that do work and hey, I am a big believer of natural therapies too. However there is a point when you and everyone around you knows that you are only being in denial or being too willful. It is at this point when you have been living in excruciating pain everyday that you do consider visiting a doctor and seek help.
Applying the analogy of physical debilitating pain to emotional dis-order , the first issue that arises is acknowledging it. We all know when we are not functioning according to our ‘normal’. Every person has a different point where he/she knows that they are doing well. Similarly there are times when we are:
1) Feeling stuck
2) Feeling overwhelmed
3) Overcome by fears / worry
4) Feeling unheard/unsupported
5) Feeling hopeless
The challenge here lies in not only being able to acknowledge it but assuming responsibility for your health/wellness and approaching a mental health professional. Our friends and family can help us a lot and they also come loaded with expectations. In all fairness, they cannot be expected to hear you out non-judgmentally and support you. Do not listen to people who ask you to ‘get over it’, ‘move on’ or ‘be more strong willed’. What intrigues me here is that we do not have such expectations of ourselves or of other people when someone needs treatment for a fracture, cancer or a condition like diabetes. Yes one can choose to ignore these too and you know how it ends!
The next time you know of someone who looks dis-ease d (not at ease/harmony), keep it simple and encourage him/her to seek help. Perhaps your loved one could use a non-judgmental listening ear who can provide support through their period of transition.